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Taylor v Taylor - Factors for Shared Physical
Maryland Courts
follow the factors outlined in this case to determine joint
legal and shared physical custody
Capacity of the Parents to Communicate
and to Reach Shared Decisions Affecting the Child's Welfare.
This is clearly the most
important factor in the determination of whether an award of
joint legal custody is appropriate, and is relevant as well to a
consideration of shared physical custody. Rarely, if ever,
should joint legal custody be awarded in the absence of a record
of mature conduct on the part of the parents evidencing an
ability to effectively communicate with each other concerning
the best interest of the child, and then only when it is
possible to make a finding of a strong potential for such
conduct in the future.
With few exceptions, courts and
commentators agree that joint custody is a viable option only
for parents who are able and willing to cooperate with one
another in making decisions for their child.
When the evidence discloses severely
embittered parents and a relationship marked by dispute,
acrimony, and a failure of rational communication, there is
nothing to be gained and much to be lost by conditioning the
making of decisions affecting the child's welfare upon the
mutual agreement of the parties. Even in the absence of
bitterness or inability to communicate, if the evidence
discloses the parents do not share parenting values, and each
insists on adhering to irreconcilable theories of child-rearing,
joint legal custody is not appropriate. The parents need not
agree on every aspect of parenting, but their views should not
be so widely divergent or so inflexibly maintained as to
forecast the probability of continuing disagreement on important
matters. The Courts will examine the sense of respect for one
another as parents, despite the disappointment in each other as
marriage partners. The fact that each can appreciated the value
of the other to the child, and is sensitive to the possible loss
of a parent-child relationship. There must be a demonstrated
capacity to tolerate the minor differences that existed and to
distinguish the important from the unimportant ones. The parents
should be able to relinquish control and not interfere in the
other parent's relationship with the child. They should each be
personally flexible and able to accommodate to the needs of the
arrangement, the child, and even to the other parent. It was
important that each parent had a sense of self-esteem as a
parent in his or her own right in order to maintain the balance
in the co-parental relationship.
Ordinarily the best evidence of
compatibility with this criterion will be the past conduct or
“track record” of the parties. We recognize, however, that the
tensions of separation and litigation will sometimes produce
bitterness and lack of ability to cooperate or agree. The trial
judge will have to evaluate whether this is a temporary
condition, very likely to abate upon resolution of the issues,
or whether it is more permanent in nature. Only where the
evidence is strong in support of a finding of the existence of a
significant potential for compliance with this criterion should
joint legal custody be granted. Blind hope that a joint custody
agreement will succeed, or that forcing the responsibility of
joint decision-making upon the warring parents will bring peace,
is not acceptable. In the unusual case where the trial judge
concludes that joint legal custody is appropriate
notwithstanding the absence of a “track record” of willingness
and ability on the part of the parents to cooperate in making
decisions dealing with the child's welfare, the trial judge must
articulate fully the reasons that support that conclusion.
Willingness of Parents to Share Custody.
Generally, the parents should be willing to undertake joint
custody or it should not be ordered. We are asked by Appellant,
and by the Women's Legal Defense Fund as amicus curiae, to hold
that a trial judge may never order joint legal custody over the
objection of one parent. They argue, with some force, that
unwillingness on the part of one parent to share custody
inevitably presages intransigence or inability to cooperate in
making decisions affecting the welfare of the child. While we
agree that the absence of an express willingness on the part of
the parents to accept a joint custody arrangement is a strong
indicator that joint legal custody is contraindicated, we are
unwilling to fashion a hard and fast rule that would have the
effect of granting to either parent veto power over the
possibility of a joint custody award. A caring parent, believing
that sole custody is in the best interest of the child, may
forcefully advance that position throughout the litigation but
be willing and able to fully participate in a joint custody
arrangement if that is the considered decision of the court.
Fitness of Parents.
The psychological and physical capabilities of both parents must
be considered, although the determination may vary depending
upon whether a parent is being evaluated for fitness for legal
custody or for physical custody. A parent may be fit for one
type of custody but not the other, or neither, or both.
Relationship Established Between the
Child and Each Parent.
When both parents are seen by the child as a source of security
and love, there is a favorable climate for joint custody. On the
other hand, joint custody may be inappropriate when opposed by
the child, or when there are indications that the psychological
or emotional needs of the child would suffer under a joint
custody arrangement.
Preference of the Child.
The reasonable preference of a child of suitable age and
discretion should be considered. In addition to being sensitive
to the possible presence of the “lollipop” or “rescue”
syndromes, the trial judge must also recognize that children
often experience a strong desire to see separated parents
reunited, and this motivation may produce an unrealistic
preference for joint custody.
The so-called “lollipop syndrome”
relates to the situation where one parent in a custody battle
may shower the child with gifts and pleasant times, and impose
no discipline in order to win the child's preference. The
“rescue syndrome” relates to the expression of preference by a
child for the parent perceived by the child to be the “weaker”
of the two, in the belief that the stronger parent will survive
in any event, but the weaker parent needs the child.
Potential Disruption of Child's Social
and School Life.
Joint physical custody may seriously disrupt the social and
school life of a child when each parent has the child for half
the year, and the homes are not in close proximity to one
another. In such cases the amount of time each parent has
physical custody may be adjusted without interfering with the
concept of continued joint custody.
Geographic Proximity of Parental Homes.
Parental homes within the same school district offer certain
advantages in a joint custody situation. The child may enjoy
joint physical custody without changing schools or being
required to constantly change a circle of friends, and the
parents may find proximity a benefit in discussing the decisions
to be made concerning the child. However, distance is not a bar,
and when the distance between homes is great, a joint custody
arrangement may offer the only practical way to preserve to the
child a meaningful relationship with each parent. Depending upon
the age and emotional maturity of the child, similarity of the
respective home environments may be desired, or exposure to
dissimilar environments, cultures and opportunities for learning
may be indicated.
Demands of Parental Employment.
In some situations, joint physical custody will be appropriate
only if the work hours of the parents are different, or there is
flexibility in the demands of the employment of each.
Age and Number of Children.
The factor of age obviously interrelates with other factors
already discussed. The number of children involved may pose
practical difficulties to a joint custody arrangement, but on
the other hand may be helpful to both parents in bringing about
a sharing of the pressures of single family parenting of a
number of children. In rare cases, split custody may be
preferred over sole or joint custody.
Sincerity of Parents' Request.
A number of interested observers have opposed the concept of
joint custody absent mutual agreement on the ground that one
spouse may interpose a demand for joint custody solely to gain
bargaining leverage over the other in extracting favorable
alimony, child support or property concessions. Drawing upon the
reasoning of King Solomon writers have suggested that a parent
truly interested in the welfare of a child will give up almost
anything to protect the child, and thus the threat of enforced
joint custody can be used to extract unwarranted concessions.
While the remedy they suggest-denial of joint custody in the
absence of parental agreement-is unnecessarily restrictive, we
acknowledge the legitimacy of these concerns and highlight the
necessity to carefully examine the motives and sincerity of each
parent.
Financial Status of the Parents.
Joint physical custody imposes financial burdens upon the
parents because of the necessity of maintaining two homes for
the child, with separate furnishings and often separate toys,
equipment, and clothing.
Impact on State or Federal Assistance.
Aid to families with dependent children and eligibility for
medical assistance may be affected by the award of joint
custody. The necessary showing of “absence” of a parent may be
challenged when there is an award of joint custody that includes
shared physical custody. Although the primary focus is properly
upon the best interest of the child, it is also appropriate to
consider the salutary effect that joint custody may have on the
parents, not only because their feelings and interests are
worthy of consideration, but also because their improved
self-image as parents is likely to redound to the ultimate
benefit of the child.
Other Factors.
The enumeration of factors appropriate for consideration in a
joint custody case is not intended to be all-inclusive, and a
trial judge should consider all other circumstances that
reasonably relate to the issue. The resolution of a custody
dispute continues to be one of the most difficult and demanding
tasks of a trial judge. It requires thorough consideration of
multiple and varied circumstances, full knowledge of the
available options, including the positive and negative aspects
of various custodial arrangements, and a careful recitation of
the facts and conclusions that support the solution ultimately
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